On Confidence

Happy-International-Womens-Day-740x779By: Seneo Mwamba

What is confidence? The dictionary definition of confidence is “a feeling of trust in one’s abilities, qualities, and judgment”. This definition seems vague and loose: confidence can be a very different thing for any individual. As today is the International Women’s Day, I thought that I would write about that, as it’s such a powerful tool to any modern day woman.

What is confidence? A feeling, an emotion, a way of life? Even with a dictionary definition it’s hard to get a solid meaning. I think that people can tell themselves that they are confident, sure about themselves, completely secure with everything, but with society and modern media constantly reminding us that there is always something that can be better, it is really hard to believe.

Now more than ever, is a time where people, women in particular, have to stand up and just be themselves: unapologetically, shamelessly. Speak your truth and do whatever it is you want to do. The power of women is so underestimated and underrated, and I truly believe that the one thing that holds many women back from truly being themselves is fear. Fear of people’s opinions, the fear of failure. The seed of doubt, questioning yourself.

Personally, I would have thought I would be writing. I started a blog just as something I wanted to do for myself at the end of 2015. There were so many times I questioned it, before I just took a breath and went for it. What I thought people would think, because “I’m not a writer” made me second guess doing it. However, I decided to do it, whether or not people actually pay any attention to it. I decided to do it for myself, and honestly I feel like it has been one of the best decisions I have made. It has given me the confidence to try new things. Last December I thought about writing for Latitude Lookout, and when I wrote my JoJo concert review in January, it was literally one of the most exciting times for me.

Trying new things can be scary, and in any aspect of life there will always be times when you question yourself. When that doubt appears, it might be a sing you really should do it. Writing is something completely new for me, it’s unfamiliar territory, but I enjoy it, and I have so many ideas, and so many things I want to do now that I’m actually doing it. So why not?

Of course that might be an “easier said than done”-type of thing, but I truly believe that all you need is belief in yourself, then you can do whatever you want to. You never know unless you try, so this month I encourage you to just go for it. Sometimes you just need a push in the right direction, and someone to tell you that “you can do it.” So listen to me when I say: